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What does this PR do / why do we need it:

fix npu_fusion_attention strategy:

1. https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/168249 supports register_sharding for operation with Tensor kwargs. Apply a patch for previous pytorch version.
2. The previous strategy followed query's placements, which may lead to inconsistent results compared single-device computation if sharing the dim of S/D. The new strategy focuses on SDPA scenario and supports DP/TP.
3. For TP, the head dim of qkv local tensors does not match the head_num arg, so head_num needs to be reset before local computation.
4. For npu_fusion_attention_backward, redistribution handling of DTensors in kwargs is added(official pytorch ops rarely have Tensor in kwargs, so most DTensor processing only considers args and ignores kwargs).

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